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I’m falling in love with my husband's brother… help!

Let me start with saying, I love my husband and I would never betray or cheat on him.

My husband and I have a fairly large age gap (think 10+ years) and I’m in my early 20s. The first two years of our relationship were like a dream. He treated me like royalty and worshiped the ground I walked on. And then we got married and suddenly he became inattentive and distant. Things got better when we found out I was pregnant, and then our child was born and he went right back to where he was. He never cleans the house, or spends time with me or our child. He spends all of his free time playing computer games and online bingo.

Here’s where my main issue comes in. His brother (5 years my senior) moved in with us some months ago and he… he makes me feel appreciated and loved. He spends time with me, and takes more care of his nephew than my husband does. He cleans the house (WITHOUT being asked!) and will take the baby for a hour a day so I can shower and smoke in peace.

He makes me laugh. I think I’m starting to fall in love with him and it scares me. I go to bed thinking of him, I’ve been fantasizing about him, and I haven’t even been caring about my husbands nonexistent sex drive because I’d rather not sleep with -him-. I feel like a traitor.

My husband can go days without saying I love you or checking in on me and his brother… he makes sure I have everything I need. I mean I’ve been begging my husband do do the things around the house that are needed and because he won’t do them his brother has started doing it on his own. I’ve tried to talk to my husband about needing to step up, about how he makes me feel er fetters, but it always turns into a screaming fit. What do I do?

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