I've been having trouble with my boyfriend, my best friend, and my thoughts. Hi, I'm HayLay, I'm 17-years-old and I'm a soon-to-be grad from high school. I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 months now and have known my best friend for over 4 years! My best friend just confessed that he still loves me and honestly, I still love him too. But how do I break it off with my boyfriend? I've helped him through some pretty rough times and even helped him not be suicidal anymore (or at least that’s what he’s told me). I’ve asked him why he likes me and his answer every time has been because I’ve helped him not want to kill himself or even just hate himself too. I know that it’s complicated and I’ve had many doubts that this relationship won’t last. But now my best friend confessed to me and I know that I still like him. My thoughts have been telling me that ever since I and my best friend broke up, I’ve used my current boyfriend as a “filler” for my love life. I don’t want to admit it, but I think that my thoughts are right. I hate it so much but it might be true. I’ve already tried to break it off with my boyfriend but I came running back to him the next day in literal tears. I couldn’t be independent for one day without crawling back to him. He is very kind to me and treats me fairly nice and wouldn’t do anything to hurt me, but now it makes me feel like a douche for wanting to break up with him for my ex just because I and him have a way better connection and very good communication with each other and we’ve known each other for a long ass time. I want to break up with my current boyfriend to be with my best friend but I don’t want to be a complete asshole about it. So should I break it off and be with my best friend? And if I do, how should I say it? Please help me! I’m very desperate!!

I am 25 years old, male, and I have never been in a relationship before (I spent the last 6 years or so focusing on getting through university). I am now in a stable position and the idea of having a nice girl to spend time with sounds really appealing. Unfortunately, I am having real difficulty in attracting girls. It may be related to my inexperience or anxiety, but I have no idea where to even start. I have spent A LOT of time on dating apps/websites like tinder, bumble, match but have not had any success. Of the matches that I have had, they seem to be either fake accounts or girls that don't respond at all to my messages. The idea of swiping right/left based entirely on someone's appearance is an idea that is quite frankly hurtful in my opinion, so I am not sure whether online dating is for me. I'm also not really looking for one night stands. I have no intention of paying my hard earned money to these companies for "premium" services. As for real life women, I have spoken to some female co-workers but it seems that they are all in relationships already. My main interests are travelling, going on scenic walks, keeping fit at the gym, and dining. I looked up a walking group but the members are all at least 40 years old. I went out to sit in a park today and saw what I thought was a beautiful girl and her boyfriend really did not appear that handsome. I don't mean that in a rude way. I don't consider myself ugly but equally I don't consider myself to be extremely handsome. All I could think was: how on earth did this dude manage to get a hot girl like her! And if he can do that, then why can't I? Is it because of a few extra pounds I've put on whilst at uni? I'm eating less and doing much more exercise now than before (at work and through the gym). When I left the park, I saw another good looking girl holding the hand of a dude that was wearing a scruffy shirt and looked like he hadn't shaved in a long time. Also, what exactly do women mean when they say that they are attracted to confident men? I have signed up to a speed dating event next month and that is basically the only thing that I have got my hopes hanging on. Anyway, sorry for the rambling but I have been quite frustrated about the repeated failure and failing in the midst of other people's success has been really hurtful. It shouldn't be this hard! Any advice welcomed. Thanks

My husband of 23 years has moved home to his parents' house. He’s angry at me because I haven’t contributed financially to the home and bills. When he first left he said, show me some small income and I’ll come home. Now he’s talking divorces. I have a small child to look after. Why is he so angry?

Ok...me and my significant other have been together nearly 5 years we don't do shit together don't sleep together barely have sex always argue there's no happiness anymore my daughter's adore him but I want to leave what should I do

So there is this guy at work. We started to speak mid June last year but it was short lived as he told me he didn't want anything serious but I fancied him so much, although I didn't know either what I wanted because I came out of a long and committed relationship not so long before. But I didn't want to give up on this new guy and we played our little games at work (blushing when near each other, smiling, small talks, caught him watching me from the distance constantly etc) but he just seemed too shy to actually do anything so I engaged a conversation with him again on a social media app. There were weeks when we talked everyday, all day and even though he told me previously he didn't want anything serious, he kept asking me things which convinced me from the opposite. Then at the very end of August I ended up in his apartment and had a *very nice* night with him. Not just the intimacy was perfect-like but the pillow talk, or the rest of the night. We were talking about everything and I could tell that we had chemistry. We were holding hands all night and he was stroking all my body, giving kisses to my cheeks, forehead, we cuddled a lot (he pulled me to his chest) and it was all so nice and definitely didn't feel like a one-night stand for me (what I thought it is gonna be). Before I left he pulled me closer and kissed me for sooo long just to say goodbye. He messaged me immediately after I left. And things were just okay for 2 weeks after but it just slipped out of my hands. I started to develop very deep feelings for him and while I saw the same on him, he never made a move. He was rude on messages. It was making me going insane. Because in person he was so nice and kind to me and his eyes told me everything what was happening in his heart but he was pushing me away at the same time. Then we had an argument that he doesn't want a relationship, a friendship, not even talking (really immature, I know). Then we cut off all the contact and didn't speak with each other. I was avoiding him at work, didn't even say Hi because it just hurt me so much. I cried every day, felt unbearable pain because I didn't understand. Then about 2 months later I heard from a mutual friend that he actually had a girlfriend all along. I started to hate him so much. I just ignored him as much as I could. About a 1-1.5 month later I noticed that he was trying to catch my eyes. He was trying to engage again. But I just kept ignoring as I didn't want to suffer more. Then I took almost 4 weeks of holiday (visited home) but when I went back to work, everything has changed. I found out pretty soon that he broke up with that girl. He started his little games again: smiling, blushing, being all awkward and embarrassed around me, sitting the closest to me in the canteen etc., I felt like he's trying to find out whether I'm still mad at him or not. And I'm not gonna deny, I still have feelings for him too, but I tried to move on and was open for anything new but the few I encountered just...weren't worth to mention (and weren't anything like this guy?). So I went into his games too. And yet again, I heard just the other day that he has another girlfriend, now officially. And now I'm just sitting here I have no freaking idea 1. Why and mostly HOW I still have feelings for him??? 2. What the heck he's trying to achieve with his games while he has someone else??? 3. Why I am not good enough for him to be in a relationship, why I'm only a back-up person for him? I feel like I've tried everything to move on and nearly succeed but he pulled me back with his pretty face and I find myself exactly where I was a few months ago. I know he has something for me, I can just tell, but then why is he trying with other girls instead of growing balls and stay with me??

I’ve been in a relationship for around eight years. I love my partner but for the last six months or so I haven’t felt like I’m in love with her – we just feel like housemates. Our sex life has dropped right off, we just aren’t as intimate in general any more, and when we are it’s planned. There’s no spontaneity. That thing has just gone. We don’t really fight but when we do I always find it’s me trying to end the fights. I love her but definitely feel like I’m not in love with her anymore. There’s a girl I work with that I really hit it off with as soon as we met. Nothing was said for ages but you could cut the tension with a knife. Since then we have started talking a lot and really developed feelings for each and spoken about it. It’s made me really think that my current relationship is definitely over but I’m so confused. I’ve told my partner that I think I want to leave and that I’m not in love with her. Then got sad sitting around at home alone and we decided to work on things. The girl at work and I decided to cut things off until I work my things out and now I feel like I’m going through two breakups at once. I’m so confused, upset and anxious about everything and don’t know what to do. I feel like my relationship is definitely done but I’m so scared to end it. What if I’m making the wrong decision and blinded by love for someone else? Any advice please.