I've had three relationships my whole life. First my kids' dad (4 kids). Cheated, I finally got the courage to leave after 14 years. Was with him since I was a teen. Second relationship, short, he used me for money and had sex with my sister. I promised myself to never put myself through that again.

I've been in a relationship with my current girlfriend for 3 years. For the most part I'm happy, we live together, and she pushes me forward in all aspects of life. In the first year of our relationship we had sex all the time and it was great. Second year in she started taking new medication for her skin and her sex drive vanished. With the lack of sex I sought to feel that similar feeling elsewhere, so I started back up on Tinder (US dating site) in hopes of feeling the similar dopamine effect. She eventually went through my phone while I was sleeping and saw that. She was hurt and felt that I had took advantage...we worked it out and are still together...I love her deeply but at the current point I'm no longer physically attracted to her...and we no longer have sex frequently. When we do it's not enjoyable and it's maybe 1x a month. I'm aware that sex isn't everything but I don't drink, or do drugs, so sex is like my stress reliver. At the writing of this post I've met another girl through my internship. I haven't done anything with her but it's very apparent that we are interested in each other. In reality I'd like to take a break from my current relationship or even break up. But my girlfriend suffers from depression and anxiety. I'm scared that if I come forward and tell her that I'm no longer interested that she will be stuck in a dark place. I'm lost - I know what's right and wrong but it just isn't that easy right now. 

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months. This is my first relationship and he has been through a lot of my firsts. I’m 19 and just graduated high school. Some people take this age to have fun and experience love from different people. I met this other guy at my old job that I quit. He started talking to me first when I walked past him & honestly a part of me was attracted to him that first moment and wanted to talk to him more and more. At first he just showed interest in doing sexual things but I was starting to grow a little crush and would help him out at work because I wanted to be near him. That’s all it was until I quit. He got my number the first day we met but we never actually texted. He texted me a couple days after I quit then a week later we hung out and went to the park and to eat. This guy is 22. Now about my boyfriend and us, my boyfriend just turned 18, is very sweet towards me and doesn’t mean any harm towards me. He’s the relationship kinda guy and would rather be with just one person rather than have a bunch of girls to talk to. He only wants me and forever. He accepts me for me and we have learned to be weird together. We have our inside jokes and places that we like to eat. Everything was so good the first 3 months until I met this other guy and I slowly started to pull away from him. I’ve been hanging out with this other guy more and he likes hanging with me too. This guy doesn’t really have people to hang with, he’s anti social but he let me in. He likes hearing me talk and listens to everything I have to say when I’m talking my head off. He’s also sweet towards me and so caring. I can tell he wouldn’t let anyone hurt me and he treats me as if I was his girl. We’ve talked and I admitted I had feelings or have and he said does too and that he wants me to be his girl. I have been very hurt and confused because I have a boyfriend so I feel bad and don’t know if it’s worth breaking up with him for this other guy. Especially since my boyfriend wants me for the long run no matter what and idk if this guy would even if he says he does. Yes my heart does want this other guy. He’s beginning to be cuter to me the more we hangout and I like him for him more and more. Sigh I don’t know what to do. Breaking up with my boyfriend wouldn’t be easy. I have to let go of everything we’ve done together, seeing his parents, and the side of me he brings out. But people have broken up lots of times and got through it so I know I can too if I had too.

This is a hard post to write, I’m 23, I’ve been with my partner 4 years, we have a 1 year old together our relationship went down hill since i was pregnant. Since having my daughter I seemed to have grown up and my life has changed (in a good way — exactly like it should when you have children) but his is still 90% the same, he still goes out with his friend spends most of his money etc. We’ve not had a great year a lot has happened where he’s let me down with his promises and i feel like it’s become too much. I do love him but I have a lot of anger and hurt toward him. I’ve ended it with him a few times but I always give in before he actually moves out. I don’t want to have sex or anything with him anymore, but I’m also struggling to leave him. I have a lot on my mind such as being a single parent, lonely (even though I'm not happy when he’s here) the list goes on… Last week my childhood lover (I still see him/hear of him as he’s a family friend/live in the same area) he randomly messaged me the other day as he was with one of my cousin's daughters. It’s got me thinking of him as last time I saw him he was speaking to me about him wanting to settle down and he heard that I was having a hard time and that I wasn’t happy with my partner and said when you do leave him I’ll be here if you need me. I changed the conversation as I feel like didn’t want to discuss my relationship with him . My mind is everywhere. Do I leave the father of my daughter that doesn’t make me happy at all? Will it get better ? do i stay and try to make it work? What about my childhood lover?? What if it’s too late when I leave my partner and he’s found his soulmate? I hope this makes sense as I wrote it half asleep while my thoughts was going 100 mph….

So my gf is on the phone with her best friend (she). My gf wants me to be quiet while she is on the phone with her; within 15 min her best friend ask about me and says how is your bf; my gf responded he’s good but doesn’t tell her I’m here with her ever.

I am a married man, I have a wife and 2 teens. I’ve been married for over 15 years now. My wife is a good mom, but her lack of drive for success, and the mentality of being a housewife has turned me off for many years now. I’ve had a conversation with her about 7 years ago about going out there and getting her degree to challenge herself and help the family financially, I was always met with negative responses. Asking her to get a job was somewhat insulting to her and she tends to tell me I’m to blame for because I don’t like the jobs she applied to (they were not worth the time for the money) and she refused to get a job at decent places with good benefits (like Walmart or Aldi). In any event, through the years I’ve grown professionally and financially with very little financial input from her. I’ve taken care of her parents abroad as well as mine and I feel like I’ve just been a cash cow for everyone. I’ve had numerous discussions with her about my feelings and she finally decided to go out there and get a degree (because she senses I'm going to leave her) which I’m helping pay for, but for many years now I have not been connected to her emotionally, I don’t love her anymore and many things happened between us and her family where she didn’t back me up and chose her family instead. I am only married to her because of my kids. The sex is there just to take care of our needs, we don’t even kiss. During the pandemic I started trying to improve on one of the 4 languages I speak. I met someone on a language app, we started talking, very quickly moved to video conversations and we both started developing feelings. We share many goals, aspirations, and she is the complete opposite of my wife in so many levels which just draws me to her even more. She is also married. We’ve been romantically talking for 4 years now online consistently. Her husband is a macho guy who wants her as a maid essentially, she is putting her self through school with the help of her grandfather (who dislikes her husband) and is on her way to becoming a lawyer this year. I love everything about this woman. We met in person (I had a work trip to her country). We had great conversations and made love, I felt so at home with her I couldn’t believe it. I have never felt so happy in my life, never felt like this with my wife. She has never asked me for a nickel, and she’s helped me in some many ways, I feel like a different man with her. We both want out of our marriages, but I’m afraid of hurting my kids (16 and 13) and disrupting their lives. She is willing to leave her husband for me, she too has a kid (8 years old). I also don’t want to hurt my wife, I don’t love her but I don’t also want to hurt her self esteem and she also cannot support herself financially yet as she is in school till 2024 and working 1 day week for now. She knows I don’t love her like the first day we got married, we talked about it, tried working on it for a few years but it’s no use. We are both in our 40s and I am not happy with her and I feel I’d be giving up my own happiness if I don’t pursue my life with the other woman whom I love. I also feel my wife deserves to be loved, by someone who truly feels for her, not me. I don’t know what to do.

So I found out recently that my fiancé has been having an emotional affair. Why do I classify it as that? 1. He told her all info about our relationship, good, bad, past, present 2. He lied who he was hanging out with 3. He was messaging her while at work and sending pictures (I never got) 4. Told her she was his go to 5. Said he trusted her with his whole being and sent a picture of himself laying in bed no shirt on (I never got that) 6. He told her she was sexy asf 7. Told her my complete medical history 8. Cried when I told him to remove her from his fb 9. Still texts and calls on cell 10. Says I am overreacting 11. I was sick and could not go out to a funeral, found out she was there and they were arm in arm and he introduced her as his bf but I never knew about her. So my question is with all of this am I wrong to feel betrayed, hurt and that the trust has been broken? He is still very defensive about her and has no care about how I feel as I am overreacting, they are just friends.

I've been seeing someone since August last year, both females. I don't know how to define us, probably a situationship. We are both very in love with each other, they just don't like labels since of how much they were left hurt by their ex. This morning we were mucking around and I called them a panzy jokingly. They really took this to heart and didn't want to talk to me. I said you want me to communicate with you but when I'm trying to you won't talk to me. They then told me they think I should leave. I ended up leaving as per their wishes Ive still not heard from them and am left feeling completely upset and like an asshole for what I said. Honestly didn't know that they were going to take it to heart so much. What do I do? I feel terrible and like I completely stuffed everything up. They want me to be more open with them when communicating and I'm really trying hard. This morning we

When I first met this guy I felt as though we hit it off right away. We were always talking, laughing and joking. He asked my friends for my snap and socials so we were taking even more. We would stay up late just talking and teasing each other. Then he started playfully touching me and I would do it back. He would also stand or sit very close with me that our shoulders would touch. My friends were telling me that he might like me as he only flirts like that around me. However, turns out he likes someone else and now they are going out. Apparently it started whilst we were still talking but its still early. One of his friends told me that maybe if told him my feelings earlier it would've been different. Now I'm just overthinking as what could've been. Thing is I still feel like there is something between us but I don't want to mess that relationship. They look good together and she is really nice. I don't know what to do. I want to at least tell him how I feel as I already missed that chance once I don't want to miss it again. I just need a way to get this whole thing outta my head so any advice is really needed.

I am a married male (62) and my female best friend (53) we have been close friends for 23 years. She separated from her husband and started a new relationship with another woman (overlapped) straight away and now 9 months later my friend's partner told her to cut me off and block and unfriended me on Facebook because she has a toxic jealousy towards me. My female friend has been calling me regardless of her new partner's wishes but I am not sure how long this will continue for. I cannot contact her at all and I am very concerned that her new partner is controlling her and not sure how to help

I am 31 years old woman with 10 years old relationship with my boyfriend. I have been 100% loyalty with my boyfriend. My physical appearance, personality and career is above average. There had been many decent guys who genuinely wanted to be with me, but I refused them all. The problem is as I am from Asian country, the couple in my country marry around the age of 28, me and my boyfriend has been together for a long time (10 years), so, my family, my relatives and my friends also asked about the marriage plan. But, from 2 years ago till now, whenever I asked about my boyfriend for the future, i mean about the marriage, he always went blank or confused and didn't answer thoroughly, and he never started the conversation about the marriage until i started or our friends asked him. (PS. We are both financially stable). When we hang out or date, we always talk about movies, work, games or funny things. From 2 years ago, I started to think like he doesn't really love me, if he only hang out me for fun and i feel guilty myself for rejecting the decent guys previously. And whenever I told my boyfriend that we need a break, he didn't accept it nor let me go. I am so stressful that my life will slowly age like this and becomes lonely. ( in my country, when you are around 35, no one interests you). And recently, I have got the feelings for the other guy. We have been known each other for months but we are not close. One day, we met at the resturant accidentally and greet each other and dined together that day. We have same likes and had really fun talking while having dinner. (I let my boyfriend know i am having dinner with that acquaintance). Another day we had our dinner together and talked about random things. After a few times we have been hang out , he said he is very happy to be with me and he has been waiting for this moment with me long ago. He said i am very beautiful like an angel and talked about the future unlike my boyfriend. Everytime we hang out, he cares me in details. He did everything sweet gestures that make me smile. Then I also start growing feelings for him. The thing is when he found out that i have boyfriend , he didn't talk to me anymore. At the current moment, 70% of my mind is always thinking about him and want to be with him and want to build a beautiful family with him. But i am also afraid being told me a cheater by the surroundings. Even if i told him that i want to be with him, will he accept me back? So, I don't know what to do. Please suggest me.

I recently moved overseas to establish my career and my boyfriend is back in my home country where he has already established himself. We love each other despite the distance and put in the efforts needed to make our relationship work. I wanted him to join me here and explore this time with me, as I am not planning to settle down overseas. I want to work here for a while, establish something sustainable before I go back home and I need him to be here with me for this time as I know his occupation is quite in demand here, and this was communicated to him. He however, does not want to leave home and his family. I sometimes fight with him over this but have realised how unfair I am being. It has only been a year and half since we started dating and it was long distance since we are from different cities back home. In this short span, he has grown on me like a wildfire. I, for some selfish reason can not seem to let go of him and it physically hurts to think of moving on if this does not work. The other day, he spoke some truth that hurt me deeply. He said that it will be painful and hard, but he would not allow himself to get stuck or stop moving on if this relationship did not work. Now, I know this is how things usually work but somehow it hurts so much. I feel like my emotions have gone too deep, more than necessary where the lines between healthy and unhealthy are now hard to distinguish. I would never hold him back if he wants out of this, but somehow I feel like I would not be able to move on even if he does. I have never been in a loving relationship such as this, and my selfishness to hold on and the fear of being badly bruised again is stopping me from living in the present and overthink about the future. I am aware that I can not control the future, and I just want to cherish this time we have with each other despite the distance and uncertainties because he is such a wonderful and special man, and I can’t seem to put in words what I feel for him. I also have unresolved past trauma that is deeply embedded for which I am under therapy. My strained relationship with my mother coupled with past trauma is affecting my relationship with my boyfriend. It makes me want to stay back in this country and never go back. However this would mean not getting to spend a life or share moments as I imagined with my boyfriend. I just need some guidance and perspective on how to see this in a more mature way as I am finding it almost physically hard to think rationally. I am in a place where I need to chose between my career and love, and I am stunned at how hard and painful it is to pick one and let the other go. Any suggestion, or experience from you guys would help me assess things better. Thank you for reading all of this!

I have been with my boyfriend almost 2 years. Everything is perfect, he loves me, cares about me, shows me affection, does everything without me having to ask him. Our sex life was amazing at the beginning. We used to have sex almost 3-4 times in a day. But recently he hasn't been interested anymore. I know he's not cheating on me. Whenever I try to approach him for sex, he mostly denies it, I've tried everything. He tells me he's tired and doesn't have the energy but he watches porn and masturbates right beside me, after masturbating he comes to me to cuddle, gives me kisses and tells me that he loves me, but whenever he masturbates, I feel like shit, I just end up crying feeling bad feeling like shit about myself, like I'm not enough. I watch porn too, but I don't know why I feel bad when he does it. Ik he loves me, he loves me a lot. It's not like he's got a low libido. I have tried to talk to him about it, he always gets mad when I bring it up, he says that it makes him feel like he's not man enough, it makes him insecure but it also makes me insecure. It's ruining my mental health, sometimes I don't even wanna meet him, cause at night, he'll just masturbate. I can't get over this. Sometimes I wish he just couldn't get it hard, than at least I'd feel better about our sex life. He gets excited when I tell him I will try anal sex, he's ready and tries to do it, but when it's just normal sex, he's not into it. I miss how he was so into me, and sometimes when we do have sex, it's mostly me trying to seduce him, give him a blowjob, cowgirl and him fucking me from side. I don't wanna break up with him, I love him a lot, I just want to accept the changes in our relationship. I just want to stop approaching him for sex or feeling bad about it, he knows how I feel. I just want to be other this part of our relationship and just be happy with our relationship.

My partner and I have been together for 5 months and we haven't had sex yet...he says that he is scared that he is not good enough. Before me he was single for 3 years and before that was in a relationship for 26 years. I love him to bits and don't know what to do.

I have had a sexual relationship with a man 24 years younger than me. We met as friends through my ex-husband quite a few years ago. We fell off some time ago and didn't talk for almost 2 years. Within the last 7 months or so we have reconnected and one thing led to another. I fell in love with him but he has said he can't be with anyone way older and recently had a younger gf only to come back to me 3 weeks into their relationship wanting sex. I still love him and am so confused and just wondering if anyone has any thoughts.

Start off with, I have been with M for 19 years now but 4 years ago I found a letter to one of his exes wanting to meet up and to find out if she was the one who got away. At the same time we found out that he has stage 4 emphysema and has been living on an oxygen machine since. I felt at the time obligated to stay. Then 4 months later, I was talking to a customer, he may have been working there 6 months, not sure because I never really noticed him. I seen him outside and noticed a tat on his arm and I only had one that I would not just drop trow to show just anyone. Then he smiled and that’s when it happened, head over heels, first time in my 52 years. His coworkers would always make comments to him when I was there about me liking younger guys and other flirty things, he would just walk away and avoid me. I would come into the building other days and he would never talk to me and when he seen me, he would leave the room. Eight months later I went there one day and noticed his car wasn’t there but he wa, I noticed he was making a bee line at me and I asked him if he walked to work and his coworkers started laughing and said he didn’t and his his car down the road, he just stood there about 12” in front of me with that sexy smile. I knew then, that was my one and only shot with him but because of my situation I couldn’t do anything. I think he thinks I wasn’t interested, for the last year now his coworkers stopped the teasing but one day a couple of months ago, I was playing on Facebook and accidentally hit the relationship button on “in a domesticated relationship “ and the same day he changed his to “in a relationship “. Which he has been with this girl for 24 years and never married. I am confused and for once in my life I want to see where this can go but I am afraid he may have lost interest. What do I do?