However well you are managing the week-to-week parenting arrangements with your ex-partner, the school holidays may present new challenges.
If you have the children most of the time, you might be looking forward to having a break from the routine, and getting some fun time together with the children (and possibly some ‘me time’ without them!). If you are the non-resident parent, you may have mixed feelings. You may be excited about treating your children, and spending a bit longer together, but also anxious about potential conflict with your ex-partner.
If you can work out the arrangements well in advance, you should have an easier time of it. As parents, you can both make plans, and the children will know what to expect and look forward to. However, it isn’t always easy.
Planning the holidays can often lead to arguments about time, costs, and who needs a holiday most. It can also bring out the competitive nature of ex-partners. While you might feel that you have good reason to fight for your case, conflict can often leave children trapped in the middle.
So, how do you keep things respectful and ensure that your children get to spend quality time with both of you?
Disagreements are bound to arise when dealing with your ex-partner. If you find yourself locked in battle, try to step back and remember the big picture. Try and manage everyone’s expectations as best you can, be prepared to compromise, and remember… there will be other holidays.
Your children will benefit from being able to have a good time with both of you. If you can keep that goal in mind, you may be able to avoid a lot of potential disagreements.
Remember that holidays can form a significant part of childhood memories. Finding ways for your children to cope better, and trying to be mindful of your ex-partner, can go a long way to smoothing the path and giving your family happy memories to cherish forever.