So for the last couple of weeks I have been working at this new place, i can't complain about the job but there is an issue. I have a crush on my coworker who is already taken, whose gf also works with us. This guy has shown me interest, but he also tends to his gf and spends lunch with her. I honestly have been talking to him and being flirty, not with my words but with my smile. Honestly i dont even consider smiling being flirtatious, you just can tell that i like him from miles away but im not necessarily making verbal moves. I can't help it, he's my type and to be honest i wasnt trying to hide my feelings even when i knew he was taken. Just because, i dont know i guess i was being selfish. But now that i think about it, maybe i dont want to be the reason why he and his gf break up. I mean it's difficult to find a guy like him, i would feel bad if i was the reason why the other girl loses a good catch like him. An a great relationship shouldn't start like this. Especially i want to avoid him after realizing my coworkers have been treating me differently because they think of me as a homewrecker although i dont think i have done much to deserve that title, it's unfair especially cause no one treats the guy WHO IS ACTUALLY IN THE RELATIONSHIP differently. I just have a crush, which is normal considering how attractive he is as a person. I am a very nice person and have a great moral compass i was just naive this time and didnt realized this couple could really have something good going for them and my existence being a threat isn't cool. What upsets me the most, is my supervisor using my personal feelings to judge me in my professionalism, i did cry a little bit because i work too hard for my image to be damage by a guy that i have tried to avoid too but he keeps showing interest in me. I dont want to be punished for feelings i cant control, but I'll try to avoid more since i wasnt doing a great job before. Do you think im a bad person?

My boyfriend Tim and I met in our early 20s, we each have our groups of friends from different genders and are very respectful about it. However there is one problem. He has this 1 female friend lets call her Betty. They were friends before we dated and they were always flirty (banter) with each other. That was when my partner was single and she was attached. Signs would be calling each other babe and names. But who am i to judge here, i wasnt in the picture yet.  Tim has been upholding his boundaries and halted whatever that may be disrespectful to me, but still keeping the friendship. Im not one to control who my partner makes friends with as i believe he have his own morals n values that i respect. I believe that fighting over another girl in my relationship means that this rs is not worth it, bcos why can she be the cause of our disputes??? Im grateful that she played an important part in his school life but when he started dating me, she was very ignorant of my existence. One instance she asked him to prank her boyfriend that Tim and I brokeup. My boy was confusedly dragged into this which i called him out after when he told me. I felt disrespected that she had to pull a joke on our relationship like that. She texts him flirty names calling him Hi handsome etc, he did not respond accordingly just a hi back. Because of that, i have been saying Hi handsome to him just for the lols. Tim ended up being mad at me for being passive aggressive. Fight was resolved. Betty will also write to him that she misses his parents and wish to see them etc. Betty will ask him to go on short walks with her, and having to give him a “slap” everytime something is funny(?) We talked about it and he understands why it felt disrespectful towards me n minimizes his interactions with her keeping it minimal to none. I dont feel threatened, just disrespected. I would be Fine with their friendship if she wasn’t so disrespectful. Fast forward a few months now, I have a group of girlfriends bestfriend which have not been in contact for awhile with 1 guy let call him Marcus. Marcus is a chill and laidback person that is fine going years without talking to a friend. When we are 13, Marcus use to have a crush on me in school which i turned down and end up being bestfriends with a bunch of other girls. Recently Marcus asked my girlfriends and I to hang out as he just came back from a vacation. So i updated Tim about this get together. He knows about my circle of friends as much as I know about his and they have hung out once. Marcus bought us all gifts and I excitedly told Tim. Suddenly Tim asks, How is it that I (me) can be so fine with Marcus but He can’t be the same with Betty. And if Betty were to do that I would be unhappy with it. To which I am now extremely confused. If he is fine with Marcus, why am i also suppose to minimize contact with Marcus? I am the one that isn’t okay with betty because of the disrespect, to which I communicated it to him and came to a conclusion that he is willingly minimizing contact. Unless he isn’t fine with Marcus, then i suggested that he lets me know and I’ll draw the line and respects his opinions n feelings. Guys help me understand. I am the one that is not okay with this particular girl bestfriend, there are other female friends that he has that I very happily mixes with. If he is Fine with Marcus, then is there a reason for me not to keep Marcus around or that I shouldn’t be accepting Marcus’s gifts ? I feel that Tim suddenly bringing Betty up is something irrelevant to the current situation about the get together with my friends. Giving me thoughts that he may want it to be a fair play that since he cut his female bestfriend off, I should too. Or That he misses his times with Betty and finds it unfair that I get to keep my friendship with Marcus and he doesn’t with Betty! Give me some insights

So there’s a guy I am pretty close with. We’ve known each other for a few years now and are good friends but there are often times where our relationship does not seems totally platonic. I have feelings for him but he has a gf (it’s been like 4 months since they met and have been dating) but over the course of the time we began hanging out (usually in a group setting) and even still now, he does things that make me think he also has feelings to an extent. It’s frustrating when he gives a lot of physical cues and signs that he is into me but now has a girlfriend. I really don’t want to ruin his relationship or our friendship because I am happy for me but it still hurts. I’m just not entirely sure what to do at this point because I’ve had these feelings for a while but I can’t move past this. I fall for him more every day and don’t see myself moving past this until I never see him again or someone else comes into the picture in my side.

I came out to my best friend 3 days ago, after she left my house. The day after she said she liked me. I said I liked her back ( I did) but now we’re dating and it’s awkward. She takes longer to text me back and I feel clingy. I don’t think she wants us to be together anymore but I really like her. I’ve told her I like her and she said yay. She’s always too busy, you don’t want to break up but I don’t know what to do. Help, we go back to school in 3 weeks :/

I've been friends with this guy for a long time. We both have someone. We talk about anything and everything. We just recently crossed the line a couple of times and had sex. So now we have an understanding friends with benefits. His girl has no time for him for the last nine months. She just calls him every day. My guy is always at work and I only see him once a week and I live with him. My friend always asks me when my guy is moving out because he knows I'm not happy with my guy. He says if things don't change real soon with his girl then he's leaving her. I have fallen in love with my friend and told him. I'm so confused about the whole situation. Please any advice would help