“I need some spice”
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I'm afraid I might have low sex drive and I'd really like to do something about it. I'm a 29-year-old female, so I feel like this shouldn't be something I have to deal with for quite a while still. I'm in a committed relationship with my boyfriend and love him very much and am very much attracted to him. We've been together about a year and a half, so I don't feel like things should be 'boring' yet.

I've noticed in other relationships I've been in the same thing has occurred, it seems like once the newness wears off I back off very much sexually. And it's not something I do by choice, but I've heard it from multiple partners it's like I lose interest or they don't seem to satisfy me like they once did. It makes me feel terrible, because I do still want my boyfriend very much, I like being able to satisfy him and don't want him to start doubting himself or the way I feel about him because of my stand off-ish behavior.

I'm about 17 weeks pregnant so I'm not sure if that has anything to do with it, but we even seemed to have problems before that. To the point that we get in arguments over it, and to me I find that silly or frustrating to be fighting over something like sex. I can understand his anger because when we first got together we were in bed almost all the time. I feel bad since he tries to engage me and turn me on by asking what my fantasies are, what can he do to get me in the mood etc. I find my mind completely blank and it drives me crazy.

I've always been very open-minded sexually, but I do feel like I've gotten boring myself. Any time he wants to try something new I don't resist, how do you know if you like something if you don't try it is how I look at it. But I can't come up with any ideas on my own, it's very upsetting to feel so 'vanilla', the last thing I want to do is let my partner down and have sexual problems in the relationship. I know the problem is me, I just don't know what to do about it and really need some help.

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