I have recently found out I am going to be a grandmother. My husband had not taken the news very well and has kicked our daughter out. She is mid twenties and is now in a homeless hostel. He won’t accept the pregnancy but can’t explain why. He just avoids the situation completely. I am now stuck in the middle between the both of them and cannot have them in the same house. How am I supposed to choose between them when I don’t feel my daughter has done anything wrong and I know my husband is struggling with lockdown but won’t admit it. Any advice please as I’m getting desperate. Thanks

My husband is good to me, overall, but every time he has to deal with his family in our house, things get rough. This condo I bought while I was single on my own and after 2-3 years living together he started to help me with the expenses and mortgage. He allows his family to take decisions or to come uninvited to our house to stay causing most of the times being uncomfortable in my own house. In the beginning our relationship was really, great until things got serious and I noticed that whenever I mentioned meeting his daughter he always had a way of evading my request, to a point I made him clearly how humiliated that made me felt that he had to hide his daughter from me, back then she was only 10. That happened for years, until he asked me to marry him and I told him how he expected to marry without me even meeting his daughter. We got married, and when the time of looking for a dress model for her dress his request was that her dressed was to be as good as mine, even though I was the bride. When I had my second child, she was in NICU for 26 days in two different hospitals for a respiratory problem. After I gave birth and while my child was in NICU I was diagnosed with pneumonia and had to stay at the hospital for 3 days. Then we came home and his daughter (who was an adult) wanted to come and visit and stayed. I have to admit she loves her siblings so much, they adore her and so do I, she has become a very good friend of mine, but back then we needed the room she used to sleep in because the children’s room had very serious roof issues and wasn’t habitable back then. My husband knew this, because we’ve talked about it before, but she came and he never said a thing to her and I ended up sleeping in the living room with my newborn, sometimes on the couch with me. Those days were so bad and unjust with me and my baby, specially because my husband allowed that to happened that as I write this my heart aches. I barely slept, I was uncomfortable, unhappy and treated as if it was fault that I didn’t complain, I still drag this issue in our relationship even though it’s been 4 years, because I needed rest and my child needed somewhere safe to be and he didn’t care, he put his daughter above everyone else. Recently he had an uncle that passed away and his mom (who is a great person, I have no issues at all with her before this) it’s coming home for the funeral and with her 5 other relatives and she distributed them around the house because as she stated this was “her son’s house” without even asking for my consent for this. Now I’ll have 7 people staying with us without even asking me about this, nor my husband. He replied that because she was having a hard time, that was her way of coping and that he didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings (of course he wasn’t talking about mine). In the past he has always told me that anyone who wishes to stay here I have to ask him because he pays 1/2 the expenses and he has a saying if they stay or not. (I’m certain that applies only to me and my family). I’m so heartbroken today.

I really always like this guy we went to school with We’ve been dating for eight years and he dropped off the key the other day. I wonder if I should call him. About $100 for me and I want to give it back!. I wonder if he will return in the future. And is there any hope

I have been married to my husband for three years. Out of those three years, we lived one year with a roommate and two years (and counting) with my MIL. We met outside the US and decided to get married. I left my job and family and moved to the US to be with him. Since I couldn’t work for the first six months we stayed with his roommate. We bought a house and moved after a year. His mom moved in with us to get her green card. Those plans changed and she found a job so she can send money back home. Initial plans of her staying six months changed into two years now and counting. Meanwhile, his sister came also and stayed with us for three months to give birth to her child to get a passport for the child. I have raised my concerns many times to my husband and cried and told him how much all of this impacts our marriage and privacy. Things have not changed and he always says he has to help them since his dad left them when they were kids and he is their father figure. He also worked on getting his brother here. That was my breaking point and I told him it’s not going to work. His mom needs to move out and his brother can stay with her and any other family members they intend to bring. I have to mention that his mom does not contribute to the household in any monetary way. She sends half of her paycheck to her country to her 27-year-old son. She also does not help in the household with cleaning or cooking. We decided that Spring break would be a good time for her to move out. It’s that time now and she is still here. Apparently, she was supposed to move in with a teacher from work but just a week before plans changed and the roommate who lived there before can’t move out until June or July. Now, I’m just thinking this is another excuse for me to just buy time. I can’t do this anymore and feel like my husband is putting his family before me. He tells me I don’t support him, while I actually sacrificed three years of my marriage and privacy along with leaving everything behind to be with him. I don’t know if I should wait until June and see if she is finally moving out or if I should just leave. I love him so much but I’m getting depressed and don’t see a good ending to this.