First post here and am a little sure what to expect, oh and sorry for the long post! So for the last couple of years I've been gambling mostly on online competitions which started with a little win which made my son's Christmas. From then on I've been buying tickets most weeks spending anywhere between £1 - £80, over this time I've incurred a credit card bill of £4k. Now on Monday night my wife saw my phone and saw on apple pay the transactions for said credit card which she knew nothing about. She's lost all trust in me because she felt like she knew something was being hidden and even asked me about any issues I had she could help with. I denied I had any issues because I was ashamed, but also scared how it would affect our marriage. Now she is telling me that she can't be with me any more because she has no trust, doesn't feel like i'm even her friend. She's talking about selling our house after Christmas and going our separate ways. We've got two young kids (4 & 10 yo) but they (including her) mean everything to me. I know I've done wrong and I've taken steps to show I won't do it again but don't think that's even helped a little bit. I've registered on a stop gambling self-exclusion site, I'm starting councelling to make sure I don't gamble again, I've closed any sole bank accounts and personally I don't have any desire to go back to any of it. My issue is how do I even start to re-build any trust and the marriage from here? TIA, a desperate Dad and Husband.