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Struggling with 10-year relationship

I have been in my relationship for 10 years and my boyfriend is 20 years older than me. I am now 29. He has never once brought up marriage, and never once talked about having a family. I am really shy and I have a hard time communicating with him about this. He is also very controlling with me. I am having trouble deciding what to do next. We are compatible as far as our lifestyle and interests and we are best friends. Our sex life has also depleted in the last few years, he seems to have ED after getting a bad UTI and his doctor did say he did have a slightly enlarged prostate.

However, it is hard not to take it personally. He told me that he still finds me very attractive and he has his own mental hangups, such as crippling anxiety. I cannot help but to sympathize, but it has been some years and sex is not good anymore. I have come to the point where I just don't care anymore and it has caused me to lose my sex drive. Kinda like a snowball effect that just gets worse and worse. He is not cheating on me, i am 100% certain. And also, from the beginning of our relationship he was never super sexual.

So I guess I just was hoping for someone to shed some light on this. As I mentioned I am 29 and there's lots of sex I could have been having and I've chosen to stick it out in this relationship (haha). Honestly I'd rather be in a loving long term relationship. But I guess my animal-instinct is to have sex, have kids etc. I'm just afraid that I will miss that window.

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