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“My boyfriend isn't interested in sex with me”

My boyfriend and I have been together for 1.5 years. Everything in our relationship is perfect except the lack of sex, which is now really affecting my mood and my self-esteem. We moved in together about four months ago and since then we have sex less and less regularly. We went from twice a week before living together to once a week and now its once every 10 days or two weeks.

I know it could be worse but we're still new in the relationship and we're still young (27 and 35). I know he had a very active sex life before our relationship and that just makes me feel worse because it's not like he doesn't like sex. He's waiting on a surgery for an issue which can sometimes hurt him when he gets a hard on. I have always been very understanding of this and have not pushed for sex because I never knew when he would be sore. He has often gone soft during sex or not been able to get hard at all and said it was due to this issue.

But now I've found out he is watching porn nearly everyday. So how does getting a hard on for a perfect girl with perfect tits and an ass on your screen not hurt you but trying to have sex with your girlfriend does? When we do have sex there is not little or nor foreplay no real affection no change of positions and he never last longer than minutes so I end up finishing myself off after. It's really hurt my feelings and is making me wonder what is wrong with me! Why would you choose porn over your girlfriend who has made it very clear she is up and willing for it whenever? I need some advice if anybody has any because I don't know what to do.

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