Hi, So basically, I google the answer to my problems like every night and I’ve finally just taken the plunge to see what other people think of this situation. I’ve been with my partner now for just over a year, we took a good 6 months to finally get together (I had a Newley ex partner and 2 very small children as a single mother) so yeah, we had some hurdles to work through before we made it official.
Sex was really fun the first few months, and it was one of the things that attracted me to him but since we made it official, the we’d had slowly fizzled out and now it’s been 3 months since we’ve had it. I’ve tried talking to him, but he says it’s my kids always wanting my attention, he said we don’t get enough us time, and that he’s scared I’ll get pregnant. The last time I tried talking about it with him, he said he feels like he’s just in a real stable place now and doesn’t see sex in that way anymore. He says that he used to use it as a high when he was depressed but now hes settled with his new family and life, that he doesn’t feel the need to have it to satisfy him. I told him I was the opposite and that I need a physical and intimate relationship and we kinda never got to the bottom of it, it’s now been 3 months and I’m basically on the pill..for nothing (It was a big choice for me to go back on the pill)
My partner also says he lacks confidence in himself which I get can appreciate, I do too with being a mum of 2 and waving my pre baby body behind, but it’s just getting to the point now where we’re not even talking about it. We’re very loving with each other, because of his job we’re only with each other at weekends and we have a really lovely bond…but it’s just the sex, the lack of and me feeling rejected massively and like it’s my body that’s put him off. It’s quite literally eating me up and I don’t know what to say anymore, any help appreciated!