I have been in an amazing relationship for the past 4.5 years. I love my boyfriend so so much. This past weekend was PRIDE weekend. We went out together to a few get-togethers with friends and had a blast. There is this guy who is a mutual friend that was also there at the parties. Hes a great guy as well. We all may have been very intoxicated.

Somehow me and the other guy ended up alone in the basement. Yikes. He kept hugging me and whispering stuff into my ear about how he cares about me and those sorts of things. It made me smile and feel happy in the moment. He then tells me that if anything were to ever happen between me and my boyfriend that he has dibs on me and that if i ever need help he’s there for me.

This really has my mind running in circles and it’s stressing me out. Why? Because I feel that I have the same shared feelings that he expressed towards me. I care about him and I’d be there for him if he needed. I’m just very confused about the whole situation because I clearly love my boyfriend and don’t want to hurt him or myself. Also my current boyfriend is the only boyfriend I’ve had. We met in high school and have been together since.

I’ve thought about possibly trying to take a break to explore myself more freely, but once again that’s scares me to death. We have too much invested in our relationship. We have a dog. We live together. And we own a car together. And we have plans to move to a different state within a few years. I want to bring this whole situation to his attention but I don’t want to hurt him. What do I do? Thank you.