My husband and I made the decision to separate late last year and have recently moved out. He has now needed to leave town for work. Our separation came at the end of a long relationship that began 14 years ago (at 16 and 25) and has putted along, not altogether unhappily but with discontent and basically living completely separate lives for the last 5 or so years. We have one child together who is intense behaviourally and he has not been supportive of my struggles with her, so I have worked part time and managed her as best I can while he has worked full.time and pursued his own interests and hobbies at leisure, never feeling that time at home or helping with our child should be prioritised. Last year it culminated in him travelling overseas several times alone and having a relationship there which has now ended. I see this as the catalyst for ending our relationship but not necessarily the whole reason - none of it would have happened if we were happy together. I don't feel as though we have ever been able.to bring out the best in each other. When he first wanted to separate, I was sad (mainly for our daughter) but worked through those feelings, developed peace with the situation and our need to separate and some months later (officially separated but still under the same roof) very tentatively began a new relationship. After this started he backflipped and said he wanted to be back together. He thinks that he is ready to change. The relationship has been up and down basically since the beginning and I honestly feel like the best thing for both of us would be to peacefully and amicably let it go and work on reconnecting him as a parent. I am ok with the whole thing - a little sad but also excited about rediscovering old hobbies, making new friends, starting a new job and seeing how my very cautious new relationship develops now I am living alone (well, with my daughter). He is not emotionally expressive like me, is holding on to a lot of regret and sadness and is really struggling. I am really worried that he won't be ok on his own, and I still care about him deeply and this hurts me a lot. I guess what I want to know is: How do I know if we have made the right decision? Should I get back with him again, do heaps of counselling and really, really try to make it work (obviously ending the new relationship I have begun, which I would struggle with at this point) for his sake and for our daughter? My gut feeling is that if we did this we'd just be delaying the inevitable. If not, how do I help him move on from the relationship? We obviously are still communicating because of our daughter. And how do I go forth and be happy with someone new when I can't shake the feeling I've left a trail of heartbreak behind me? I know this is too long (and yet still so much is left out)! I don't really expect anyone to have the answers but any ideas or experiences would ve helpful. Thanks :)

Hi. I'm new on here and have so many questions about this topic. I know with marriage you need to be a team to make things work. But recently I was kicked out because I did not want to cut my hours of work because we do not have part time hours and let him claim my kids and I because I make good he told me if I wasn't willing to change and think about his paycheck so he can pay bills then I need to leave. Now yesterday he told me we need to see a male counselor for couples and try to make things work for him. Not my kids or even us just himself. There were times before where I had he has kicked me out before and I always went bac.. this time I don't know what to do I'm lost. I feel like maybe I am the one who is at fualt but I have recently learned about narcissist people. He does show a lot of red flags in our relationship. Like blaming me for everything that goes wrong for him or he will tell me that I'm the one that needs to be fixed because I'm the problem and as soon as I see someone to help me get fixed we can work things out. He is mean to my 12 year old daughter and doesn't even bother paying attention to our 5 year old son. I'm lost at to do I love him I don't want to put him before my kids. Please someone help?

Hello All! I will give birth in July 22 and the relationship with my partner is not great at the moment. I am trying hard to make it work but this cannot be one sided. We are not married so in case we split up what do you recommend to make sure that I will have financial support from him? I have read that it would be important to: make a statutory declaration acknowledging that he is the father Present a parental responsibility agreement at the register office 1. Are both the declaration and agreement have the same legal power? 2. Where do I find those documentations? Any help/suggestion would be much appreciated as this is totally new to me. Many thanks in advance for any help. Valeria

Lately I feel my partner is not hearing me, we didn’t argue for the first two years of our relationship now we argue all the time. I have explained that there is a deeper meaning to our arguments and explained what I feel they are but he is not taking it on board he just puts the blame on me. I don’t know what to do, I’ve suggested counselling but he won’t, we’ve had seen each other less and that hasn’t helped either.

My husband of 23 years has moved home to his parents' house. He’s angry at me because I haven’t contributed financially to the home and bills. When he first left he said, show me some small income and I’ll come home. Now he’s talking divorces. I have a small child to look after. Why is he so angry?

Ok...me and my significant other have been together nearly 5 years we don't do shit together don't sleep together barely have sex always argue there's no happiness anymore my daughter's adore him but I want to leave what should I do

I’ve been in a relationship for around eight years. I love my partner but for the last six months or so I haven’t felt like I’m in love with her – we just feel like housemates. Our sex life has dropped right off, we just aren’t as intimate in general any more, and when we are it’s planned. There’s no spontaneity. That thing has just gone. We don’t really fight but when we do I always find it’s me trying to end the fights. I love her but definitely feel like I’m not in love with her anymore. There’s a girl I work with that I really hit it off with as soon as we met. Nothing was said for ages but you could cut the tension with a knife. Since then we have started talking a lot and really developed feelings for each and spoken about it. It’s made me really think that my current relationship is definitely over but I’m so confused. I’ve told my partner that I think I want to leave and that I’m not in love with her. Then got sad sitting around at home alone and we decided to work on things. The girl at work and I decided to cut things off until I work my things out and now I feel like I’m going through two breakups at once. I’m so confused, upset and anxious about everything and don’t know what to do. I feel like my relationship is definitely done but I’m so scared to end it. What if I’m making the wrong decision and blinded by love for someone else? Any advice please.