In this video did you see what happens what happens when Liam and Naomi STOP and TALK IT OUT.
Next time you find yourself getting drawn into an argument with your partner, remember – the first step is to STOP.
STOP: Stay calm and listen.
TALK IT OUT: Speak for yourself and try to see things from [_your partner_]’s point of view.
WORK IT OUT: Negotiate and problem-solve.
John Gottman, a famous relationship researcher, found that couples have better relationships when their positive moments outweigh their negative moments.
For every negative moment between you and your partner, you need five positive moments to balance it out.
At the beginning of this section, we asked you to think about this Sliding Scale and identify where you and your partner might be.
Now you can begin to think about where you would like to be, and how you might get there. Here are some questions to get you started:
Now it’s time to set some goals. A goal can be a thing you want to happen, or a way you want to be. Goals are a good way to make sure you use the new skills you are learning.
What would you like to do differently?
You can set goals by going to your account and clicking on ‘Goals’.
Then you can either choose your own goal or pick one from our list:
The most important thing is to PRACTISE. Whatever goals you choose, try them out over the next few weeks. The more you practise, the better you will get.